Shit’s been getting way too hectic here at home. My brother’s getting to his teenage years and you know how tough those can be on a kid so I need to put my focus in him for awhile.
Stick around if you want, I might be able to do some Saturday night thing where I answer whatever comes in within 20 minutes or something.
I’ll keep the blog up too, so if you ever need any help you can take a look through my tags to see if you can find what you’re looking for. A lot of people have gotten a decent answer just from someone else’s question so give it a shop.
Either way, don’t give up hope on yourself. You’ve got it tough and I’ll never trivialize your problems. But you can make it through and you can do this. Don’t sell yourself short. Don’t think you don’t deserve help. Everyone deserves help. If you need to call a suicide hotline then call one, don’t tell yourself it’s not bad enough. If you need a therapist or a counselor get to one. There’s no such thing as a reason “not bad enough” to seek help from others.
You guys are worth the help. You’re great kids and you deserve the same shot at life as everyone else.
I love you alright. Even if I barely fucking know any of you.
Thanks for trusting me.
-DS
Anonymous asked: This is REALLY embarrassing and I'm sorry. Well, when my boyfriend and I get intimate, sometime he'll finger me, and it feels good and all, but at the same time it's kind of hard to feel, unless he uses two fingers and then it kind of hurts unless I'm really lubed up, but then it's hard to feel that. I've never actually had sex before, but I feel loose and I'm just wondering what's up and why I'm not feeling tight enough. (cont.)
(cont.) I never hardly finger myself when I masturbate, so why do I feel like I’m loose? Am I just kind of psyching myself out to thinking about what penetration feels like when it feels totally different or what? Sorry if I’m bothering you guys!!!
You’re not bothering me. Internally, girls are stretchier than on the surface. I mean, it’s designed to push out something the size of a football, so it’s gotta stretch. It probably feels like you’re loose inside but tight externally (that’s the pain you feel) because of that. Instead of having him use two fingers, where it hurts, suggest to him to use one, but hook it around as though he’s scratching an itch. You can experiment on yourself too. One finger hooked towards your belly button will give you a bit more sensation than simple straight finger thrusts.
I can’t speak for the penetration part though, so Momma will take that.
Hiii bby. Penertation feels a bit differnt to fingers. That thing is thick nd hard and not very bendy, whereas fngers are thinner and bendier. If you want to leanr what penetrationd feels like, try getting a small-sh dildo that you can libe up and use. dont psuch yourself otu, its fun no matter what you use! get him to bend his fingers aroudn liek bro said and you imight find a bit mroe snensation when he fingers you. hoep it helps! xxx
Anonymous asked: Hey Bro, do you have any advice for someone who's looking into getting their first tattoo?
I’m going to put this in point form, otherwise this will become an essay.
- RESEARCH YOUR ARTIST. You want something on your body that is going to look amazing from day one to the day you fall off the perch, and a cruddy artist is going to turn out with a cruddy tattoo. Go to tattoo shops and look at their portfolios, and even chat to some of the artists there.
- Find an artist you trust. If you’ve seen an artists work on someone, go there and see what they can do for you. Build a repertoire with your artist. If you find an artist you love and they do a great job on your first tattoo, chances are you will become a regular client of theirs if you would like more in the future.
- Have a clear idea of what you want, but don’t google image it. If you want a butterfly, tell your artist you’d like it and where, and let them design something. You are entirely free to say no to their design, but an original piece by your artist will give you something unique, full of their best skill and something that will overall look a whole lot better than a picture taken from the internet.
- Remember that it’s permanent. You have the right to turn down a design or an artist you don’t think is up to your standards, because this is in your skin and it will not come out. You don’t want a shoddy surgeon removing your appendix, so don’t get a shoddy artist marking your skin for life.
- Check the facility of the artist you choose. If you trust them, this should be moot. They should practice proper hygiene (medical standards of hygiene), have a clean facility with privacy for their clients.
- Compare prices, but don’t haggle. It’s perfectly fine to think seven hundred dollars for a tribal tatt on your wrist is too much, but a lot of artists will think that you trying to barter a price out of them is an insult to their skill. If the artist charges too much for what you want, find another facility and another artist. Chances are, the more you look around, the more genuine artists you’ll find.
Finally, go here to have a look at a professional artist who critiques work. You can learn a lot from this guys response to images, from what they regard as quality work, to other tips and things that I might not have mentioned.
And super lastly, when you get your tattoo, drop me a picture. I’d be hella keen to see the finished masterpiece.
Anonymous asked: Hi, Bro. So about three months ago I started dating this girl I met on Tumblr. She's younger than I am (I'm 19, she's 15) but that didn't bother either of us, at least at first. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized it DID bother me. The problem is, I'm really starting to fall in love with her, and it's becoming harder to end the relationship. I'm just stuck, what do I do?
Well, I think you need to do a bit of soul searching. Why does it bother you? Is it because she’s so young, or is it because you aren’t comfortable? Is the age a deal breaker? Or do you think you’d prefer to take things slower until she’s older?
Figure out what it is you want. And when you realise that, you’ll know what to do. It would be a shame to end a good relationship because you’re unsure and realise later you made a mistake, but it would also be a shame to stick around simply because you feel too guilty to end it.
Anonymous asked: Hey Momma and Bro, my issue is that I feel really ashamed of myself when I masturbate. After I finish I just feel really down on myself. Is that normal? (I'd prefer if Momma could answer this since I'm a girl, but Bro is fine too~)
Hay baby. Ther;s no shame in masturbating. I can asusre you the vast majority of peopel masturbate regylarly. Maybe your'e self conscious? Or maybe you werebroguht up thinking that it's wrong. But it isn't. Its' healthy and a good way to learn what turns yo on and off and what your kinks are.
I coudl rattle on and on about the mental, emotionsla and phsycial benefits that masturbation (or eevne orgasm) gives you, but i'll simpely say that orgamsign releases certain cehmicles from the brain which eases stress, makes our skin glow, keeps your body on a reuglar schedule and even helps you sleep.
It may be mnormal to feel uncomfotabl e afer you have masturbated, but its also entirelt normal in itself to masturbate. :) xxx
Anonymous asked: thanks bro, you're pretty darn cool
Welcome, kiddo.
Anonymous asked: I have to go to my first con in 4 months, and I wanna get in shape. Right now I'm okish I guess, but I'd like to get to a healthier weight. I'm 15 and female, if that helps at all, but like the last anon, do you have any tips? uvu
I honestly can’t give you any viable advice without knowing more about your lifestyle, as well as your height and weight. But I’m also loathe to hand out tips willy nilly for fear of giving you the wrong advice and causing your body some damage.
Because you’re still young, your body is still growing. If you go hardcore, you’ll muck up your bodys growth. Just try eating healthy amounts of good food (lots of fruit and vegetables) in a balanced intake, and go for a walk around the block once a day, with around 1-2 litres of water a day. That should be enough to give your body a boost and raise your self confidence.
Anonymous asked: As I get older, I've been getting a lot more pressure to start driving. I know I need to learn, but I'm afraid to. 4 years ago one of my best friends since childhood died in a car accident and I've been terrified of the idea of driving by myself since. It doesn't help that I don't have the best confidence in my abilities either. I'm running out of time though, seeing as in the upcoming fall I will be attending a university and my parents won't be there to drive me around. What should I do? :(
Try getting lessons with an instructor. When I was driving, I had to learn on a stick shift. It was the worst fucking thing ever. I hated it, had no confidence in myself and was terrified of stalling in the middle of a roundabout and having an accident. But then I got an instructor, and it fixed everything. One lesson with him and I had my confidence back.
If you’re not comfortable in a manual car, learn in an automatic. Drive with someone as much as possible, and when you’re able to drive by yourself, just take small trips to build your confidence. You have entirely plausible reasons to be terrified of driving, and you’re right, it can be scary.
Start small, and work your way up. Ask your parents to take you on a quiet road when you’re starting out and do a little bit at a time. When you gain more confidence in your ability, you can move to busier areas.
Anonymous asked: hey bro... i've been having a bit of a problem with school. i have all good grades except for math. i honestly have no clue how to get help, i don't know if my school has a tutoring program, my friends all suck at math too... and when i search math help on google i just get a bunch of websites that don't help at all. do you know any resources or online tutors??? thank you so very much!!!!
When I was a tyke, there was a program I used to help me improve my sums. It was called Performance Math. It was like a sports game and it’d shoot sums at you and it helped improve your speed. And I was woeful at my times tables. To this day, I suck. But as a kid, I had this cassette tape (age showing here) that was full of times tables in funky songs.
I should record some times tables songs. Maybe that’s a thing I’ll do.
Anyway, whenever I need to do some multiplication, those songs still jingle through my head and I can remember them.
I tried looking PM up but you need a dinosaur of a computer to make it work (I’m talking Windows ‘95 old). But it did inspire me to look up some games that might help. If you make it a bit more entertaining, maybe you’ll retain the knowledge.
I’m not sure of your age, but here are some middle school games you might enjoy, and here are some games targeted at high school students. Start within your capability, and work your way up.
My multiplication story also sparked me to look up times tables raps on youtube. Go through those and see if you like ‘em.
Hoped this helped, kiddo. Good luck.
Anonymous asked: hmmm. so this guy has a really big crush on me if he ever asks me out how do i nicely say no???
Tell him.
“Sorry, I’m really not interested.” Or, “Sorry, I really am not looking for a relationship.”
The second one is better. It will make it seem like it’s not him you’re turning down, but every guy ever who has approached you. A white lie never hurt anyone.
